A Minute Reflection on Loss by Anique Ruiz, Founder, The Journey For Women

Love often requires us to give away things or let go of people that we care about the most. It is a painful and difficult process that most often involves separation, heartache, and a sense of loneliness. While we would like to hold on to our loved ones, at some point we all have to let them go.

If we are still living and have to deal with the loss of a loved one, it can be a life-altering process. Life experiences and cherished memories have a way of being brought to life in the presence of a physical being, and the absence of that person seems to add a layer of sadness to an otherwise happy memory.

Even in long-term relationships, the absence of someone we once loved and cared for can make us to feel abandoned, lonely, and confused. Sometimes we long for that person, and other times we long for what that individual represented or brought into our lives: comfort, stability, companionship, love. This kind of loss can be even more complicated if we have daily reminders of that loved one in the face of a child or a parent.

How do we learn to let go and separate from the things and people we love the most? We must learn to trust God. Job, a man familiar with separation and death, gave us a powerful lesson in letting go: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and The Lord has taken away, may the name of The Lord be praised.” (Job 1:21)

We can let go when we understand that as believers in Christ our eternal dwelling place is not on earth, but in Heaven. Because our time on earth is fleeting, it is imperative that we treat the wonderful things and people that come into our lives as blessings from God, not things that we can possess or own. We cannot always understand God’s ways, but we know that everything–good AND bad–serves His purposes. For that reason, He works everything together for good to those that love Him and are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

Lesson for the day: God is love, and all of the love that you need can be found in Him. When we find Christ and accept Him as our Lord and Savior, we can take comfort in knowing that we will be reunited with our loved ones in Heaven. We can also find solace at the end of an intimate relationship, knowing that God’s love will fill every void that exists in our hearts. Time may not heal all wounds, but God certainly does.

It may take a few months, some tears, and a night out with friends or in with close family to navigate a tough loss, but don’t give up on the possibility of being happy again. Allow God to close one door, knowing that He has many others that will open.

Yours in the Journey, Anique


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